An Open Apology To All The Girls I’ve Been Mean To

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The Belle Jar

I’m sorry for all of the times that I’ve said that I’m not like other girls, implying that there was something defective or inferior about being a girl. I’m sorry for how hard I’ve tried to be “different,” not because being different felt authentic but because I was afraid that I would never measure up to you.

I’m sorry for all of the times that I’ve made fun of traditionally feminine things, like make-up and pretty clothing. I’m sorry that I derided these things as stupid and frivolous – the fact that I did that says more about my own insecurities than it does about anything else.

I’m sorry that I called you a slut. What I meant was that I was jealous that boys wanted to sleep with you. What I meant was that I was jealous of how comfortable you seemed to be in your body, how easily you…

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Tips For Writers

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The Belle Jar

Write because you have something to say.

Write because you’ve always wanted to.

Write because you only just realized that you might die next week, or tomorrow, or five minutes from now, and you want to leave something behind for posterity.

Write because you have a secret fire burning inside of you and the only way that you can fan the flames is by sharing your thoughts with someone else.

Write because you’re bored and don’t have anything better to do.

Write for yourself.

Write for other someone else, or maybe everyone else.

Write because you love seeing your stats counter surge every time you post something. Write because nothing satisfies you quite so much as seeing others share what you’ve written. Write because you like the attention; there’s nothing wrong with liking the attention.

Write because it fills the emptiness in your heart or your soul or your pancreas…

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Curl Tip Alert! DIY Curl Moisturizing Spritzer

I love coming up with my own hair concoctions, and the one suggested here is a good one. I have my own mix of Aloe Vera juice, coconut oil, vegetable glycerin and water. My hair loves it.

Afrophire Magazine

What do our curls want? Moisture! When do they want it? Now!

It’s no secret that moisture is natural hair’s best friend because our hair is naturally dry. Daily moisturizing is vital to the health of natural hair. Water based hair spritzers are a great and easy way to help keep your hair hydrated.

DIY Curl Moisturizing Spritzer

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Black on Black crime is a myth. It’s not a thing. It’s false. A lie. Or, at least, if it is a thing, then so is white on white crime, but no one ever talks about that, because it’s easier to believe that black folks are inherently violent so that when communities of color try to have a discussion about racism in the justice system, people who would rather ignore gross injustices can point fingers and yell, “BLACK ON BLACK CRIME” to shut down any discussion about the school-to-prison pipeline or policies in this country that lead to black folks being locked up at higher rates than white folks (or gunned down without recourse, *ahem*.)

From Kal Penn, You Racist, Bro?

me right nowIn defining myself, I want what I share about my life to amount to more than just a bunch of declarative statements on Facebook and Twitter. I want people to see action and witness change.

I can talk to you all day about what I want from life and where I see myself, but it is more important to me that I be a woman of action.

I don’t want to just know the rhetoric; I want to actually put in the work.


When Mrs. Obama was roughly 12 minutes into her 20-minute remarks at a home in Northwest Washington, a woman at the front of a crowd of about 200 people began shouting for President Obama to issue an executive order barring federal contractors from discriminating against employees based on sexual orientation or gender identity. But where Mr. Obama, more accustomed to such interruptions, typically waits in place for the protester to stop and perhaps acknowledges the complaint, his wife chose direct confrontation.

via Michelle Obama Confronts Heckler at Fund-Raiser –


Michelle Obama with the, “OK, what we not gon’ do is…”